Jealousy .. the green eyed monster, is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, sadness, and disgust.
its just illusions that we put in our minds , like this relationship is compromised by that person's presence , it's so related to insecurities we all have , being left once for someone else, or seeing someone we love get dumped for someone better, so planted the thought that 1st you are not good enough , second your partner is looking for someone else, and that jealousy object is it , and everything will just fall apart because of it .
the thing is , the feelings we think our partner feels toward us , are the feelings we feel toward ourselves , like if you think your partner think you are not good enough , it's because you think so of yourself , if you think that he is looking for someone else , it's because you think he deserves better, but still mad at him , for leaving you , and all these thoughts are inside your head , triggered by seeing him with someone else , maybe smiling in a way you don't see as much as you used to .
here you should start thinking . why am i not good enough ? why do i put myself in a situation that i will be dumped sooner or later ? am i ugly ? am i stupid? am i boring? it's not trusting someone else with your heart is the issue here , it's trusting the destiny again , that it won't fail you this time too, trusting that you are good enough , because your partner choose you and still with you , and leaving someone is not that easy as it may seem at times, and if you can't open up to him about all this , then you need to start opening up, or other wise you should find someone whom you can confined your deep wounds with , because a relationship is about fixing each other , and if you were left out once or more , he should know about it , because it's going to affect your relationship, he should hold on to you long enough to know that you are not a bad person to live with , and even if it don't work out sometimes , it's not your fault .
i say we stop blaming ourselves for everything that we wanted that didn't go our way, forgiveness, is the cure for the insecurities , and when we start to embrace our inner self , with it's good and bad , this will put an end for all the lack of self confidence that we all have these days , it will make our hearts shine , and our souls will blossom ... and it's going to be impossible for anyone to leave us .... no matter how hard the try ...
its just illusions that we put in our minds , like this relationship is compromised by that person's presence , it's so related to insecurities we all have , being left once for someone else, or seeing someone we love get dumped for someone better, so planted the thought that 1st you are not good enough , second your partner is looking for someone else, and that jealousy object is it , and everything will just fall apart because of it .
the thing is , the feelings we think our partner feels toward us , are the feelings we feel toward ourselves , like if you think your partner think you are not good enough , it's because you think so of yourself , if you think that he is looking for someone else , it's because you think he deserves better, but still mad at him , for leaving you , and all these thoughts are inside your head , triggered by seeing him with someone else , maybe smiling in a way you don't see as much as you used to .
here you should start thinking . why am i not good enough ? why do i put myself in a situation that i will be dumped sooner or later ? am i ugly ? am i stupid? am i boring? it's not trusting someone else with your heart is the issue here , it's trusting the destiny again , that it won't fail you this time too, trusting that you are good enough , because your partner choose you and still with you , and leaving someone is not that easy as it may seem at times, and if you can't open up to him about all this , then you need to start opening up, or other wise you should find someone whom you can confined your deep wounds with , because a relationship is about fixing each other , and if you were left out once or more , he should know about it , because it's going to affect your relationship, he should hold on to you long enough to know that you are not a bad person to live with , and even if it don't work out sometimes , it's not your fault .
i say we stop blaming ourselves for everything that we wanted that didn't go our way, forgiveness, is the cure for the insecurities , and when we start to embrace our inner self , with it's good and bad , this will put an end for all the lack of self confidence that we all have these days , it will make our hearts shine , and our souls will blossom ... and it's going to be impossible for anyone to leave us .... no matter how hard the try ...
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